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: Wondered why on I said “Marriage and ual ”? : Because the two are two different things! : Just because someone is married, that doesn't mean the people in the wedlock have to have a ual . : They just married to each other, that's all. Whether or not they will have a ual , that's their own business. : That's why in the Qur'an, there's a line saying that it's okay for a man to married his stepdaughter (his wife's daughter) that are under his care, as long that he didn't have ual with his stepdaughter's mother (a.k.a. his wife). It's in An-Nisaa: 24. : : Now we must ask ourself, what's a marriage? : Personally, I think it's a pledge where a male stated that he will protect and care a female. : Well... Any boy could do that. : Like for example, an 8 years old boy and 8 years old girl might be in a difficult situation where danger threatens. His big brother was taken out of the picture, and so are the rest of his friends. There's no one else to protect him, especially to protect her. What should he do? After awhile, he came into a conclusion, he pledges his promise to protect to her. : Now... What's so much different about a 40 year old man protecting and caring a 6 years old girl? : None! Except that the two previous ones are around the same age, while two later ones have a 36 years gap. : : May I remind you that in the Qur'an, the word “muhashonati” showed up. : Which means, females that are strongify (protected). : Note: Some of the translations are kinda flawed. It mentioned ‘married’ instead : It appear in An-Nissa:24. : Which basically said that you can't strongify (protect) girls that you don't owned. : As for a girl's approval. : If she doesn't mind, you got her approval. But of course, before you got her approval, you must first ask her parents (or her guardian if she had no parent, or the people who is authorize on her welfare if she had not personal guardian). : Marriage is nothing more than a transfer of responsibility of protecting and caring, from her parent to her new husband. : : As for ual intercour on a young girl. : Well... Most would prefer when a girl is old enough to reproduce anyway. And before it, it's nothing more but personal preferences. Though if it's too young, it can hurt, so one need to judge wisely on which age is right to have a ual with (which can vary from girl to girl). : Muhammad's marriage toAisah at a such a young age is nothing wrong, since that he just took the responbillity of protecting and caring Aisah from her father Abu bakar. : As for when he had ual with her, it's probably when she's in her teens (an age where a woman probably already can reprdoduce). : : As times goes by, the story about Aisah become more and more of an importance. : In all of Muhammad's wives, she is the one where many of the Qur'an lines is about her. : And... We must also becareful in regarding the raising of the age of marriage in modern times. In the past, people are married in a young age, and to most, nothing bad happen to them. Why should that we today raised the age of marriage to an older age? Is there somekind of conspiracy to raised the age where one can married? And... As you all know, people in modern times, have difficulties in their marriage in comparison of people in the past.

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